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How to Care for Aging Parents

If you notice anything disconcerting, ask other people in your parent’s life to get an outside opinion. And carefully broach the subject with your parent. Maybe she’s noticed it too, and doesn’t know what to do about it.

Create a Plan

Do the research. There are a lot of resources available both online and in your local town or doctors’ offices that can help you in creating a game plan for care that is suitable for your elderly parent. Start with the Social Security and Medicare websites. Under the Elder Care heading, you’ll find services and products offered by these institutions that will aid you, many of which are free for their members.

List out the symptoms and remedy options. It could be that you’re having a parent dealing with an illness that requires frequent doctors’ visits and medications. Or your elderly parent is unable to take care of himself properly. Determine what is needed (such as an aide for a few hours, daily medication prep, or even around the clock care), and estimate the costs. There are elder care management workers (social workers for the elderly) that can help you by assessing what you need and notifying you of services and programs available to you.

Clear the Air

Discussion is key. If your parents are anything like mine, you’ll be faced with the difficulty of them not wanting to discuss their issues with their children. It requires swallowing pride and vulnerability to admit they are no longer able to do the things they once could with ease. And now having to consult with the person they took care of for help, can be a major hit to the ego. But as Bill Withers once said, for no one can fill those of your needs that you won’t let show…[so] lean on me.

“One of the essentials of elderly care is to remember each member of society wants to be healthy and functioning. When an elder realizes he or she is unable to continue caring for oneself like they were able to in the past it is devastating to their self-image,” asserts Inside Elder Care author, Cheryl Swanson.

By getting things out in the open, you and your parent can have an amicable discussion about how best to implement a new care plan and may even uncover other areas of concern. This can prevent your elderly parent from feeling blindsided or having resentment toward you for acting on their behalf without consulting him.

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Stasie Tillman

Stasie Tillman

Stasie Tillman is a writer & an investment and personal finance analyst. She oversaw the Analytics department for a prominent Long Island, New York brokerage firm for many years. She’s on a quest to
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