But you never know until you try, so that’s what we did. We started pretending we had to make a $1,200 payment every month. We tracked every penny to make sure we could make it happen, and when we paid our rent, we also slid an extra $500 per month into our savings account.
This accomplished two things. First, we learned first-hand exactly what it would take to afford that house (more on that in a minute). Second, we were quickly building a nest egg to reach our down payment by banking all that extra money each month.
And it worked.
When you force yourself to make a big (fake) mortgage payment every month, you learn very quickly how to live on what’s left over. We ate pretty cheaply by finding deals at the grocery store and cooking at home. In fact, we only rarely ate out during that intensive savings period, and when we did, we never spent any extra cash on alcohol. Our biggest nights out were just to the movies, and we spent a lot of nights in with equally frugal friends, sharing homemade treats and watching movies at home.
We also didn’t take any vacations during our trial mortgage period. Instead, we hosted visitors from out of state who wanted to get a look at our new hometown. We also gave up any thoughts of upgrading our cars or splurging on decorations for the apartment. After all, we were on a mission to get out of that place, so why bother sprucing it up?
Laying the Groundwork
Once we were convinced that we could really afford that mortgage payment every month, we were ready to talk to a lender. We didn’t know if they gave loans to people who were under 35, but you what? They do — as long as you look like a good risk. It turns out that we did, and not because we had just scraped together our 3 percent down payment in six months flat.
Without realizing it, we had already laid the groundwork for being financially responsible. Here’s what we had done in the time leading up to buying the house:
- Built Solid Credit: We each had opened a credit card as freshman in college, and we used the cards to buy our books and small incidentals. We made payments on time and built up strong credit scores during our four years in college.
- Kept Our Debt Down: We also didn’t carry any balances on those credit cards. We treated them like debit cards that couldn’t be overdrawn, so we didn’t have any credit card debt when we were looking for a mortgage. My student loan debt was therefore a reasonably small percentage of our income in the eyes of the lender.
- Got Full-Time Jobs: I didn’t make much money my first year of teaching, but it was a steady job with a regular paycheck. My husband was an artist, but he had a strong enough stream of 1099s plus a regular W-2 job that the lender was convinced we were gainfully employed — no cosigner required.
The Bottom Line
If you want to buy a house, you probably can — if you’re committed. The best way to test that commitment is to put yourself on the “live like you have a mortgage” savings plan and see if you can survive. If you can, use the extra savings for your down payment — or to pay down your debt, if your debt-to-income ratio needs work first. While you’re building your savings during your mortgage trial period, work on raising your credit score and building your frugality muscles so you won’t feel house poor when you finally do reach your goal.
It may take several months, but you can do it!